Building a Culture of Philanthropy: Demonstrating Why Donors Give
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Matt Wasserman

It’s not pickpocketing or twisting arms—it’s creating a greater experience than the donor could ever imagine.

A few weeks ago I wrote on five steps to jump on the path to breaking down silos and creating bridges for your colleagues to build a culture of philanthropy, and embrace fundraising practices. Here are the five as a refresher.

This article takes a deeper dive into the second step – discuss the giving experience with your co-workers that are not in development. You can read more about the first one here — improving your organization’s perception of fundraising.

With this step, the goal is to demonstrate the joy of giving and the fulfillment it brings, and remove any negative misconceptions that exist about fundraising. It’s an exercise of putting your colleagues in the head and hearts of your organization’s donors.

You can deliver the below takeaways through a variety of internal communication channels including regular staff newsletters and updates, a separate internal development department communication, training, and in regular or fundraising specific meetings.

When describing the giving experience to your non-fundraising colleagues I recommend highlighting key reasons why people give, and what they give to including (but not limited):

  • Ideas and organizations in which they have belief and confidence
  • Organizational leaders with whom they can be philanthropic partners –the leadership of your organization (people give to people)
  • Opportunities and not deficits
  • Successful organizations
  • To make an impact — change for the good 
  • Big ideas
  • Most importantly people give because of the positive feeling it evokes

 

It’s also helpful to take it step further and explain that people who have reached financial security are often looking for more – the next thing in their life and a contribution to something greater themselves. These donors are looking for additional meaning in their life, and making that gift helps them grasp that meaning. As fundraisers and as an organization we help them achieve this meaning! How cool is that! It’s not pickpocketing or twisting arms it’s creating a greater experience than the donor could ever imagine.

Pollyannaish, far-fetched, unrealistic your colleagues might say, well show them some videos (like the ones below)…or better yet have the donor tell their story in person or through an article, making sure to include how making gifts made them feel.

 

Did you hear the donor’s emotional connection and feeling? The video testimonials were filled with philanthropic power phrases such as it was my honor, I was committed, it’s a good feeling to know, dear to my heart, the difference that is made, inspired to help, and most rewarding thing I could do.

Now you are ready to explain why people don’t give by covering some key put-offs. These are better explained in training and meetings, and include:

  • Needs – having your hand out and pigeon holing choices
  • Deficits – to be made up by the donor’s giving
  • Lack of success or inability to get things done
  • Lack of vision or ability to demonstrate impact
  • People and programs they don’t care for and or don’t believe in.
 

When they give in spite of any of the above, it’s usually out of loyalty to someone else such as a board member, chair or event committee member, or friend who is a donor. Then you as the fundraiser are sent out on the fool’s errand to “hunt them down” for that second gift. Your leadership clinging to the notion that he or she might make a bigger gift. The video to show staff for this one is a bunch of NASCAR crashes in slow motion…I’ve been there, right in the driver’s seat, it’s not pretty.

These are just some of the ways in which you can talk about the giving experience within your organization, and I invite you to comment on other ideas that you feel would be effective.

It’s important for your colleagues to understand the donors of your organization motivations for giving. Once they understand this, they are better prepared to join in on philanthropic efforts.

If you would like to learn more about engaging your staff in the fundraising process, please contact me at matt@makephilanthropywork.com.

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Lauren Sisneros

Lauren Sisneros is the founder of LS Consultants, LLC, a consulting firm that provides strategic advising and interim management support to nonprofit and education-focused organizations. A mission-driven leader with over 20 years of experience, Lauren brings a deep commitment to advancing equity across education, workforce development, and public policy.

With a keen understanding of complex systems and a results-oriented approach, Lauren partners with organizations to develop and implement strategies that are both effective and sustainable. Through LS Consultants, she delivers hands-on guidance in program management, board and stakeholder engagement, and leadership transitions, empowering mission-aligned teams to grow, adapt, and create lasting community impact.

Lauren has collaborated with a diverse portfolio of clients, including the Prosperity Denver Fund, Contractor Academy, Education Commission of the States, and Strong Start to Finish. Her work is grounded in a strong foundation of project management, nonprofit leadership, and policy analysis.

She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration from Colorado State University–Pueblo and a Master’s in Education from Colorado State University Global. Lauren is also a proud graduate of the University of Denver’s Latino Leadership Institute, a fellowship preparing Latino professionals for positions of influence across Colorado, and the Denver Metro Chamber Leadership Foundation’s Leadership Program, an 11-month civic leadership experience.

A Colorado native born and raised in the San Luis Valley, Lauren now lives in Lakewood, Colorado. She is a proud mother of two college students and a devoted grandmother who cherishes time with her family.

Throughout her career, Lauren has remained deeply dedicated to expanding access to opportunity, especially for underserved communities. Her work continues to center on shaping systems that are inclusive, community-driven, and equity-focused.

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As founder of The Connected Leadership Project and consultant with Arrow Performance Group, Kyle partners with organizations such as the State of Colorado, CiviCO, and the University of Denver to design experiential leadership programs that build resilience, connection, and innovation. He also serves as program director for Leadership Veteran, an 8-month leadership initiative advancing the skills of professionals serving veteran communities.

Previously, Kyle directed Colorado State University Douglas County Extension, where he launched Colorado’s first Juntos 4-H program to expand pathways to higher education for Latinx youth and families. He also led the Family Leadership Training Institute of Colorado and has worked with institutions such as Peace Corps (Moldova), NYU Steinhardt, Centrul Educatia 2000+ (Romania), and the Council for Economic Education.

Kyle’s facilitation expertise is rooted in adult learning theory and supported by credentials such as Emergenetics, Strategic Doing, and Technology of Participation. He has led statewide and national trainings, peer learning cohorts, needs assessment processes, and community-centered planning efforts across government, nonprofit, and education sectors.

He holds an M.P.A. from New York University’s Wagner School of Public Service and a graduate certificate in Learning and Development from the University of Denver’s College of Professional Studies.

Kyle believes that the workplace should focus on continuous learning and growth, inclusive engagement, and creating a sense of belonging. “Why wouldn’t we hope for work environments that align with our values and our professional and personal growth aspirations?” He brings curiosity, compassion, and clarity to every engagement, and is most inspired when people find their voice, connect with others, and lead boldly in collective service.

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Jason Pemberton is a multi-award winning facilitator, coach, independent executive board director, and strategist based in Denver, Colorado. Born in USA and raised in New Zealand, his entire career has been dedicated to Not-for-Profit and purpose-led organizations striving for high impact.

A series of catastrophic earthquakes in his home city of Christchurch, New Zealand, launched him into several years of disaster response, which, in turn, launched him into international consulting practice. He has worked in more than a dozen countries supporting companies, networks, and communities navigate through unexpected terrain for mutual benefit.

As a strategist and coach, he is pragmatic, direct, and clear, bringing his sharp mind and depth of thought to the fore whilst supporting groups to identify their own priorities and take charge of their future. His deep governance experience, coupled with professional training in positive psychology and related coaching accreditations, makes him highly effective at supporting teams of leaders and governors to find successful paths forward.

His time now is invested in supporting governance boards and senior leaders to succeed, and coaching technical experts and engineers on how to be skilled leaders of people.